Maybe I’m Just Not Cut Out to Be a Dad

Dear Mr. Dad: I’m a new dad—my son was born two months ago—and although I hate to admit it, I’m not feeling much like a parent. My wife wants me to be as involved as she is, playing with, feeding, talking to, and changing the baby. But I’m honestly not that interested. I was perfectly happy with the way my life was before. As you can imagine, my wife is rather annoyed with me. So I’ve got two questions for you: Aside from making my wife happy, why should I be involved? And is there something I can do to get more interested in fatherhood?

Those are two great questions—ones plenty of new parents struggle with but are afraid to admit they have. After all, we live in an egalitarian time and men and women are supposed to be equal partners in parenting, and we’re all supposed to fall head-over-feet in love with our babies from the second they’re born, right? Reality—as you’ve discovered—doesn’t always work out that way. The truth is that not everyone is born with the desire—or is cut out to be—an involved parent. And political correctness aside, not every couple is fully egalitarian. That said, there’s another facet of reality that you have to confront: Yes, you may have been happy with your pre-baby life, but you’re in a very different place now, and things will never be the same.
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They’re Heeere! Brand New Editions of “The Expectant Father” and “The New Father” Are Out

The brand-spankin’-new, updaed, revised, improved editions of The Expectant Father: The Ultimate Guide for Dads-to-Be (Fourth Edition) and The New Father: A Dad’s Guide to the First Year (Third Edition) are here!

With more than a million copies sold, both are considered the classics in the field. They’ve been completely revamped for the modern dad and feature the very latest research and discussions for today’s fathers.

Three Must-Have New Baby Items

SONY DSCSo the day has come, and you’re holding that tiny, helpless, unbelievably lovable, and completely dependent-upon-you baby in your arms. Congratulations, and welcome to the journey of fatherhood. Whether this is your first baby, or the third or sixth, that old provider-protector instinct is already kicking in. But between trying to cope with those nighttime wakeups and adjusting to a new pace of life, it’s not always easy to make the right decisions for the newest member of your the family.

Don’t worry, dad. The fact that you want to give your baby the very best means you’re more than halfway there. Three of your most important activities are going to be feeding, schlepping, and swaddling–all of which require the right equipment (and technique). Unfortunately, it’s hard to filter through the dizzying array of products and the equally dizzying amount of misinformation Here’s an intro to the equipment and some info that will help you stay on the right side of each one.

Baby Bottles

You may have heard the phrase that “breast is best” when it comes to feeding your little one. Many studies have shown the myriad benefits of breastfeeding, so it’s considered all the better if your wife is able to nurse. Does mama work full-time? If she can pump, give her encouragement to do so—and kudos for the hard work it takes to make this happen. The key to giving a breastfed baby a bottle is finding a variety that closely simulates the breast. Styles like the line of NxGen Nurser baby bottles are regularly recommended by lactation consultants.

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The Art of Fatherhood — Cartoonists Needed

Any cartoonists out there? I need your help (and yes, there’s someting in it for you).

As you may know, I’m doing major revisions of two of my bestselling books, The Expectant Father and The New Father: A Dad’s Guide to the First Year. Both are coming out in the spring of 2015. I want to replace some of the cartoons that are currently in the books and would love to include some from real dads. If you’re interested, we’re having a contest. Cartoons that get selected will get $150 plus full credit in the book (and my undying gratitude). Guidelines are below. Feel free to forrward this to any artistic dads you know.  [Read more…]

Top States for New Dads in the Workforce

A new state-by-state analysis released for Father’s Day shows how little the nation supports and protects employed fathers when a new child arrives. The special report, Dads Expect Better: Top States for New Dads, includes an analysis of state laws and regulations governing paid leave and workplace rights for new fathers in the United States. It finds that only 14 states and the District of Columbia are doing anything at all to help new dads who work in the private sector.

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The New Father – A Dad’s Guide to the First Year (3rd edition)

An indispensable handbook on all aspects of fatherhood during the first 12 months, by the author of The Expectant Father: The Ultimate Guide for Dads-to-Be (Fourth Edition)

This essential handbook for all things first-year father is now fully updated and revised. Not only will new dads get a month-by-month guide to their baby’s development, men reading The New Father will learn how they change, grow, and develop over the first twelve months of fatherhood.

In each chapter, Brott focuses on What’s Going On with the Baby; What You’re Going Through; What’s Going On with Your Partner; You and Your Baby; Family Matters; and more. The latest research, as well as time-honored wisdom–and humor, thanks to New Yorker cartoons and Brott’s light touch–make The New Father indispensible for the modern father who doesn’t want to miss a moment of his child’s first year.

What’s new in this edition?

  • How technology is changing fatherhood
  • Changing definitions of fatherhood
  • Changes in the way society deals with dads—from changing tables in public men’s rooms to workplace flexibility
  • Research proving that a father’s love is just as important as a mother’s
  • How being an involved dad rewires a man’s brain
  • How changes in women’s roles in the family affect dads and their roles
  • Special concerns for: young dads, older dads, at-home dads, unmarried dads, dads in same-sex couples, dads in blended families, dads of kids with special needs, and men who became dads with the help of technology
  • The special impact dads have on girls and boys
  • Specific strategies dads can use to get—and stay—involved in their children’s lives
  • Updated resources for new fathersNot to mention new research and information on:
  • How to understand what your baby is telling you
  • Babies’ amazing abilities• Baby massage–they love it!
  • The latest on vaccinations and healthcare• And much, much more