Rejections are the emotional cuts and scrapes of daily life. We get turned down by romantic partners, our colleagues get together without inviting us, our spouses rebuff our sexual advances, our neighbors don’t invite us to their holiday parties, and our friends ignore our posts and Tweets on social media platforms. The one thing all […]
Remember the story a few months ago about the 15-year old girl who was forced to get up in front of the whole school and announce that she was pregnant? Or the 14-year old boy whose parents forced him to stand on the street with a sign declaring that he’d receive Fs on his report card?
New research is just now confirming what most sane parents already knew: humiliating punishments actually do more harm than good. And that’s certainly the case with the newest entries into the “it-seemed-like-a-clever-idea-at-the-time” category of parental stupidity.
Researchers at the University of Oregon found that “The level of aggression between partners around the time a baby is born affects how the mother will parent three years later, research shows.” Specifically, there were looking at whether psychological aggression by parents of infants–in particular name calling, arguing, door slamming, and so on–would affect the parents and their children a few years down the road. The short answer? It sure does.