The horrific shooting in Colorado has been so extensively analyzed that there’s almost nothing left to say. Almost. There are two issues that should be getting more attention.

First, we need to acknowledge that three of the victims were men who used their own bodies to protect their girlfriends. We’re going to hear a lot over the next months and years about how males are violent, but it’s important that we not forget that men are also heroic (far more often than they’re violent). Without giving a second thought to their own safety, Jon Blunk, Matt McQuinn and Alex Teves gave their lives so the women they loved could live.

The next issue is a bit more controversial. The youngest victim of the shootings was Veronica Moser-Sullivan, age six. What were Veronica’s parents thinking when they brought a 6-year old to a midnight showing of an amazingly loud, violent, and scary movie–a movie no 6-year old should be seeing? (And, for that matter, what were the parents of a 4-year old girl and a 4-month old boy thinking when they brought their kids? Fortunately, that family was incredibly lucky and escaped largely unharmed.) I’m by no means saying that losing their daughter “served them right” or some other nonsense. Of course not. But even in the midst of this kind of tragedy, it’s worth noting that as parents, we have to remember that our kids are not just miniature adults.