Beyond DadBod: Why Men’s Health is a Women’s Issue

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Dear Mr. Dad: My husband doesn’t exercise, he eats tons of fried foods and sugary drinks, and hasn’t been to see a doctor in years. Worse than that, our two sons, ages 8 and 10 are following in their dad’s footsteps. I’m really worried. Why won’t my husband take better care of himself?

A: I really wish I had an answer to that question, but the closest I can come is, “It’s complicated.” Part of the problem is the messages we send to boys and men: “Big boys don’t cry,” “Take it like a man,” “Man up and stop complaining,” “Real men play through it,” and my favorite, “Pain is just weakness leaving your body.”

Once those messages get into our head, they’re nearly impossible to get out. So it’s no wonder that like your husband, we don’t get regular checkups, don’t do much preventive care, we ignore our symptoms, and generally stay as far away from healthcare providers as we can unless the pain is unbearable—and even then, we often hold off, hoping it’ll go away. On average, we’re half as likely as women to have seen a healthcare provider in the previous year—and that’s after taking out women’s prenatal visits.

Instead of “Why won’t he take care of himself,” the real question you should be asking is, “What can I do to help?” I know that doesn’t seem very fair. You’ve got enough to worry about already and you’re probably tempted to tell him to “Man up” (and you’d be right). But the bottom line is that his health affects you in a pretty significant way.

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Spring Cleaning

So, it’s spring. The perfect (and somewhat cliche) time to clean up the house. Spruce it up, declutter, get the screens into the windows- you know, the whole jam. It needs to happen- spring is a good a time as any! Get all that winter “ew” out of the house, too.


There’s never a bad time to clear the clutter out of your home or garage or to do a wardrobe purge. When you donate your stuff to Goodwill, the revenue from the sale of your donations helps fund job training and placement opportunities for people with disabilities and disadvantages directly in your community. That’s cleaning with a purpose.

Have you heard of the the “Donate Stuff. Create Jobs.” campaign? Thanks to the programs and support services made possible by donations of clothes and household items, more than 261,000 people earned jobs in 2013 – that’s one person finding a job every 27 seconds of every business day. So you’re literally donating your stuff AND helping to create jobs.
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Military Family Monday: Married to a Reservist + Basic Pay Is Just the Beginning

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Being married to someone serving in National Guard or military Reserve makes you a soldier too, serving right along with your soldier, Marine, sailor, or airman, helping on base, keeping up friendships and households and managing the civilian side of their lives. In most cases, it works for everyone involved. But it’s not easy.

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When it comes to what you can eern in the military, Your monthly basic pay is just the tip of the money iceberg. Not satisfied with what you’re making now? There are a lot of ways to increase your bottom line. There are pays that you earn, pays you deserve, pays you may never heard of, and pay you get while deployed or TDY (temporary duty assignment).

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All In: The Struggle between Work and Family

Josh Levs, author of All In.
How our work-first culture fails dads, families, and businesses.
Issues: The parental leave battle; the struggle between work and family; Dumping the “doofus dad” stereotype; challenges of being a military dad; dads’ changing priorities; the overall importance of fathers in children’s life.

Time for a Clean Sweep?

Although I’m being compensated by Merry Maids for writing this article as part of the Merry Maids Father’s Day program. , every word in here is 100% true and completely my own

zoe does dishesWhen it comes to cleaning, moms do it all, right? Well, maybe if the moms (and lazy dads) in question are in their 70s or older, but that’s by no mean the experience of today’s involved dads—and their very lucky wives.

To be honest, I grew up in one of those moms-do-it-all (or at least most of it) homes. And my dad’s main advice to me about cleaning was to hire someone else to do it. But still, the old guy actually taught me quite a few cleaning-related lessons. Let me give you a couple of examples:



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