#Men’sHealthMonday: Are Men Becoming the New Women?

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tamh - talking - public domain via bing imagesWe use a lot of sex stereotypes in our everyday speech, most of the time without realizing it. Sometimes even the most gender-neutral phrases carry a strong stereotyped message. In most cases, the words are harmless, but other times they’re dangerous.

Take, for example, the word “behave” as it’s often used in schools. For decades, we’ve been telling boys in classrooms that they should “behave” properly: sit still and be quiet—behavior that’s strongly associated with girls. Unfortunately, that’s not the way boys learn best. Boys get the message that girls’ behavior is “right,” and that that there’s something wrong with boy’s behavior. Parents are told that their sons have ADHD, and they rush out to find a doctor who will confirm that “diagnosis.” As a result, way too many boys are drugged unnecessarily.

Read the rest of this article on the Talking About Men’s Health blog, here.

Exploring the Culinary Arts

Dear Mr. Dad: I’m not a whiz in the kitchen but I learned enough as a kid to make it through college without having to subsist solely on peanut butter sandwiches and Ramen noodles. My wife and I both cook meals but we can’t seem to get our son (age 11) remotely interested in cooking. How do we get him interested in learning how to cook for himself?

A: You’re absolutely right—everyone should be able to cook enough to feed themselves. Most of us will never become great chefs, but it is possible to get your son to join you in the “not-a-whiz-in-the-kitchen” category. At the very least, knowing how to cook a few things will improve your son’s diet–kids who can cook are less likely to rely on fast food and more likely to eat healthier foods. There are a number of other advantages, which I’ll get to in a minute. But your first step should be to try to figure out what your son has against getting in front of the stove.
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What Not to Buy Him for Valentine’s Day

When it comes to buying gifts, it’s a tossup whether it’s harder for a man or a woman. But when Valentine’s Day comes around, all the promos are for feminine gifts, leaving a poor woman puzzled about what to get her man. According to a recent survey, 37 percent of men would be devastated if their significant other forgot Valentine’s Day. So spend some time and money to make your guy feel special. There are plenty of myths surrounding what to buy a man you love. The stereotype suggests that you should buy him manly gifts such as tools and beer, but hardly any guy actually fits just those stereotypes. Getting him a gift that goes against the trends shows that you love him enough to be interested in what he actually wants and needs. And isn’t that what Valentine’s Day is all about?

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Redefining Girly


Melissa Atkins Wardy, author of Redefining Girly.
Topic: How parents can fight the stereotyping and sexualizing of girlhood
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Issues: How to redefine girly in your home; getting friends and family on board; navigating kids’ play; how to avoid stereotyping girls and boys; saying no to sexed-up toys and too-sexy-too-soon parties.

Overcoming Infertility + Fighting Stereotypes of Girlhood


Jennifer Hanin, author of What to Do When You Can’t Get Pregnant.
Topic:
Options for couples facing fertility issues.
Issues: Advances in natural products for women; new supplements, medications, and treatment protocols; the latest in egg freezing, vitrification, gender selection, and genetic testing.


Melissa Atkins Wardy, author of Redefining Girly.
Topic: How parents can fight the stereotyping and sexualizing of girlhood
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Issues: How to redefine girly in your home; getting friends and family on board; navigating kids’ play; how to avoid stereotyping girls and boys; saying no to sexed-up toys and too-sexy-too-soon parties.

“Why’d You Pull Me Over, Officer? I Didn’t Do Anything,”

Cops who pull drivers over for traffic violations have heard every excuse imaginable—and some that probably aren’t. In most cases, the driver pleads ignorance (I didn’t know, I didn’t see it, who, me?), but the kind of claimed ignorance depends on whether the driver is a man or a woman, according to Insurance.com’s latest “Ticketmaster” […]