Safety-Net Parenting

Leon Scott Baxter, author of Secrets of Safety-Net Parenting.
Topic:
Raising happy and successful children.
Issues: The importance of letting our children fail—and learn from the experience; helping children find their passions and strengths; the difference between nudging a child in a particular direction and pushing; why you’re not your child’s friend—and shouldn’t try to be.

Wiser Divorce + The Importance of Failure

Angie Hallier, author of The Wiser Divorce.
Topic:
Positive strategies for your next best life.
Issues: Developing a solid game plan to keep tempers in check and everyone moving forward; identifying bad habits that can lead to unhealthy choices; how learning to collaborate with your ex-spouse will give your kids a bright future; saving money by choosing your battles wisely; why going to court is rarely the best solution.

Leon Scott Baxter, author of Secrets of Safety-Net Parenting.
Topic:
Raising happy and successful children.
Issues: The importance of letting our children fail—and learn from the experience; helping children find their passions and strengths; the difference between nudging a child in a particular direction and pushing; why you’re not your child’s friend—and shouldn’t try to be.

Overcoming Psychological Injuries + Homefront United + Military Spouse Network + 11 Military Mompreneurs

Military One Click

[amazon asin=1594631204&template=thumbleft&chan=default]Guy Winch, author of Emotional First Aid.
Topic:
Practical strategies for treating failure, rejection, guilt, and other psychological injuries
Issues: How to ease the sharp pain of rejection; how to stop the devastating ache of loneliness or disappointment of failure; how to recover from low-self-esteem or loss; how to deal with nagging guilt; much more


Homefront United NetworkAngela Caban, founder, Homefront United Network, homefrontunited.com/


National Military Spouse NetworkSue Hoppin, founder, National Military Spouse Network, www.nationalmilitaryspousenetwork.org/



MSB New MediaAdriana Domingos-Lupher, co-founder, MSB Net Media, msbnewmedia.com/


Dumbell FitnessChristina Bell Landry, owner, DumBell Fitness, dumbellfitness.com/


Daddy's Deployed Mommy's DeployedBridget Platt, CEO and founder, Daddy’s Deployed and Mommy’s Deployed, daddysdeployed.com/


Military One ClickJennifer Pilcher, founder and CEO, MilitaryOneClick.com, militaryoneclick.com/


Powerhouse PlanningJessica Bertsch, president of Powerhouse Planning, www.powerhouseplanning.com/


Women Veterans InteractiveGinger Miller, founder and CEO, Women Veterans Interactive, www.womenveteransinteractive.org/


Nomades CollectionChristy DeWitt, Sales Manager, Nomades, nomadescollection.com


R. RiveterKellie Dudley, R. Riveter, www.rriveter.com/


LockNLoad JavaLori Churchhill, co-founder, Locknload Java, locknloadjava.com/


My Military LifeWendy Polling, My Military Life/Military Life Radio, mymilitarylife.com/


The Military Spouse CoachKrista Wells, The Military Spouse Coach, themilitaryspousecoach.com/

You’re More Normal Than You Think, Part II

Dear Mr. Dad: After trying for several years to conceive the “regular” way, my wife and I decided to adopt. She’s super excited and has already started outfitting the nursery and buying baby clothes. I’d like to share her joy, but, honestly, I’m feeling a little depressed. Is there something wrong with me?

A: Nope, nothing wrong with you. Think about it this way. The time between your decision to adopt and the actual arrival of your child could be considered a “psychological pregnancy.” Of course, unlike a biological pregnancy, you won’t usually know exactly how long it’s going to take from beginning to end. But what’s interesting is that most expectant adoptive parents go through an emotional progression similar to that of expectant biological parents, says adoption educator Carol Hallenbeck. The first step is what Hallenbeck calls “adoption validation,” which basically means coming to terms with the idea that you’re going to become a parent through adoption instead of through “regular” means.
This might seem straightforward, but it’s usually not. Researcher Rachel Levy-Shiff found that for many parents, adoption is a second choice, a decision—like yours—that is reached only after years of unsuccessfully trying to conceive on their own and years of disappointments and intrusive, expensive medical procedures. Infertility can make you question your self-image, undermine your sense of masculinity (how can I be a man if I can’t get my partner pregnant?), force you to confront your shattered dreams, and can take a terrible toll on your relationship. That’s enough to depress anyone. If you’re having trouble accepting the fact that you won’t be having biologically related children, talk to some other people about what you’re feeling. Your partner certainly has a right to know. Even though she’s very excited, she’s probably feeling a lot of similar things.