Mr. Dad Seal of Approval: Father’s Day 2015 Submissions Open!

Mr. Dad Seal of ApprovalOakland, CA: May 22, 2015 — Do you know of a great product or service that encourages dads and their children to spend more time together?

If so, the MrDad.com team wants to hear about it!

As one of the leading websites promoting positive parenting for dads, we’re pleased to announce that submissions are still open for the Father’s Day 2015 Mr. Dad Seal of Approval.

But hurry. As you can imagine, Father’s Day is kind of like our Christmas (although we have Christmas awards too), and we’re already receiving lots of entries. The deadline for submissions is June 9, 2015. We’ll announce the winners the week of June 14. You can find out more and get the application process started here.

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Why You Should Wrestle with Your Daughter

Dear Mr. Dad: I’ve got twins—one girl, one boy—and we love to wrestle together. I always thought I was treating them the same, but a few days ago, my wife told me that she thinks I play very differently with them—very physically with my son and much more gentle with my daughter. I started paying attention and I have to admit that she’s right. So now I’m wondering: is there any actual reason to be more gentle with my daughter? And should I be more gentle with my son?

A: No and no. Assuming you’re playing in a safe way and the kids are having fun (you should always take your cues from them), there’s absolutely no reason why you can’t be just as rough and tumble with your daughter as you are with her brother. As the father of three daughters, I can assure you that little girls are just as sturdy as boys. In fact, based on science, one might argue that girls are actually sturdier. Although more males are conceived, more die in utero. And while more boys than girls are born, boys are more likely to be arrive prematurely and they’re more susceptible to disease and death. Boys are more likely than girls to die from SIDS (sudden infant death syndrome) and less likely to survive the first year than girls. As they get older, boys are significantly more likely to be diagnosed with autism, learning disabilities, mental retardation, and many other conditions.
Despite all that, we still have this idea that girls are delicate and need to be physically coddled. That’s an idea that starts from the very beginning. What’s the first question people ask when someone has had a baby? Boy or girl? We ask because we want to know how to treat the child in question. Parents (both dads and moms) encourage independence and exploration more in boys than girls. They typically (and unconsciously) allow boys to cross the street by themselves at younger ages and wait a few seconds longer before picking up a boy who’s fallen than a girl. And, of course, they wrestle more with sons than daughters.
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Useful Advice for Teaching Kids to Ride a Bike

A guest post by Leona S. Green

Riding a bicycle is one of the biggest milestones that a kid can ever achieve. It is like a rite of passage that shows the young ones the joys, risks, and thrills, of being independent. If you were a very active kid, you can still probably remember the first time that you pedaled your two-wheeled vehicle. And now that you have your own children, you probably want to share with them the happiness that you felt when you managed to maneuver your ride and went through daring adventures with your friends.
For older people, riding a bike can be as easy as breathing. But for the little ones, balancing on their bicycles can be a little bit challenging. That’s the reason why parents need to be resourceful and patient with teaching them how to balance and pedal their ride. To help you out, check out this post and discover the most effective ways for teaching your kids how to ride a bicycle and love the experience.
1. Choosing their Ride
Of course, it always starts with choosing their two-wheel ride. Unlike clothes, it is highly recommended that you avoid buying bmx bicycles that are too big for them. They won’t grow into their over sized bikes, and it will slow down their development rather than hasten it.
To check if it’s the correct fit, make sure that they can still stand on the top tube while keeping their feet on the ground. In addition he should also feel comfortable while sitting on it.
2. Safety first
To lessen your worries about any potential risks, let him wear durable bile helmet that meets safety standards. In addition, consider buying gloves, shin guards, or knee pads.
When you’re practicing how to ride, make sure that you choose an area where there’s not too much traffic. The road should also be flat and paved. You can start in your front yard, driveway, or a vacant parking lot.
3. Run alongside your kid
Work with your kid by running alongside him while controlling the steering. Once he gets the hang of it, gently hold your son’s shoulders and allow him to steer.
4. Teach them how to use the brake
Sometimes, we get so excited about teaching them how to pedal that we forget one of the most vital steps in cycling – learning how to use the brake. Teach the young ones how to do emergency stops. Regularly perform these stops until hitting the brake becomes second nature to them. Teach them about braking gradually, and how to use the rear and front brakes.
Got any other tips to your fellow parents? Feel free to share them in the comments section!

Sex During Pregnancy

Q: Help! I’m an expectant father and something’s happening to my libido. I used to be one of those guys who loved to have sex anytime. But now that my wife is pregnant, I’ve completely lost interest. What’s wrong with me?

For some men, sex during pregnancy is an incredible turn-on. But for others, it borders on the revolting. Where you stand on the issue depends on a lot of factors, but one thing is pretty much guaranteed: When your partner is pregnant, your sex life will change.
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My Baby Doesn’t Like Me

Dear Mr. Dad: My two-month-old baby doesn’t like me. He’s perfectly content with my wife, but when I try to hold him, he gets upset and cries. I’ve backed off a little, thinking that he just needs a little time to get used to me, but that doesn’t seem to be working. I’m starting to think I’m just not a very good dad. Is it too late for me to build a relationship with my baby?

A: There’s not much in this world that can make a grown up man feel more incompetent than a baby can. The good news is that there are a lot of things you can do to get past those feelings—and no, it’s not too late. Not even close.

Before we get into the what-to-do part, we need to do something about the way you’re thinking. First, get the idea that your baby doesn’t like you or that he thinks you’re a bad father out of your head. Do you really believe that someone who’s a few months old is qualified to make a judgment about your parenting skills? What other dads could he possibly be comparing you to?
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Divorce Mediation or Collaborative Divorce?

Coping with divorce is never easy, but you can make things a lot easier if you choose a strategy that allows you to divorce without going to court. Staying out of court reduces time, expense, and trauma for everyone involved, especially the children.

There are several ways to handle a divorce without court. Ultimately, your personal and family situation will dictate which option is best for you. If you’re a dad, you may be concerned about visitations and the impact that your divorce will have on your children.

I spoke to the divorce lawyers at Galbraith Family Law, in Barrie, Ontario, who said “Although separation and divorce can be heartbreaking and challenging with the emotions that come along with it, having an experienced divorce or family attorney can help with this process tremendously. These lawyers can help you with your cases and settlements using out-of-court options such as Divorce Mediation or Collaborative Law. This is the best way to ensure there is minimal effect on all parties involved. Especially those fathers who most often experience suffering after divorce, as well as the children.”

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