Military Family Friday – Changing Roles after Deployment + Acing Your Performance Review

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Photo credit: Daniel Bendjy/Getty Images

When mom or dad comes home from a deployment, everything changes. In some cases, families adapt to their role reassignment relatively easily, while for others it can be a little—or a lot—more challenging. Depending on the couple and family dynamic when the soldier deployed, a number of issues may come up when you or a loved one returns. Striking a balance, avoiding power struggles, and learning how to relinquish some of the responsibility can be quite difficult on the military spouse, regardless of gender.
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Each service has its own system for assessing which servicemembers deserve to be promoted and remain in the service. Those who score below average could potentially be involuntarily separated.
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Military Family Friday: Positive Relationships with Kids + Reserves is More Than One Weekend Per Month

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Taking the time and effort to prepare yourself and your children for the upcoming separation will be a challenge; there’s no question that we’re talking about one of the most stressful times of your lives. But as hard as it is, it can help you grow as a family.
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The Reserves and the National Guard are a great way for those who would like to serve in the military, but aren’t ready for full time enlistment. Some of your Reserve training will transfer directly to your civilian career and will make you a more valuable employee. The education benefits, which may include partial reimbursement for tuition and fees, can help you advance in your civilian career. And, of course, the extra pay helps with the household budget. Everything seems to make perfect sense. But, is there a catch?
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Military Family Friday: Audie Murphy on PTSD + College Savings Strategy

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Medal of Honor and flag

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Audie Murphy: Leading the Battle for PTSD Awareness
Audie Murphy, one of the most decorated soldiers of World War II, also experienced symptom of PTSD and was very open in talking about it. It’s been around for centuries, but under different names: During the Civil War, it was called “soldier’s heart.” During World War I, it was called “shell shock,” and in WWII, it was “combat fatigue” or the “thousand-yard stare.” But whatever it’s called, the most common symptoms of PTSD include mood disorders and frequent, dramatic—and sometimes debilitating—flashbacks. And it is by no means a sign of weakness.
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Whether you’re saving up for your children or your spouse, it’s imperative for military families to strategically plan their education funding, and to be knowledgeable about the resources that are available.
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Military Family Monday: Married to a Reservist + Basic Pay Is Just the Beginning

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Being married to someone serving in National Guard or military Reserve makes you a soldier too, serving right along with your soldier, Marine, sailor, or airman, helping on base, keeping up friendships and households and managing the civilian side of their lives. In most cases, it works for everyone involved. But it’s not easy.

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When it comes to what you can eern in the military, Your monthly basic pay is just the tip of the money iceberg. Not satisfied with what you’re making now? There are a lot of ways to increase your bottom line. There are pays that you earn, pays you deserve, pays you may never heard of, and pay you get while deployed or TDY (temporary duty assignment).

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#MilitaryFamilyFriday: Saving Money + Being an Absentee Landlord

At one time or another, most of us run into some tight financial times. Being on a military salary—which, as we all know, isn’t the greatest in the world—doesn’t help. But, there’s no reason that you shouldn’t be able to save money, whether you’re trying to build your retirement fund or just socking away a few extra bucks for a rainy day. Here are nine tips that will help you save money, even on a military salary. Read the rest of this article on my about.com minisite.

If you’ve been living off base in a property you own, it also means that you have to figure out what to do with your current home. The most obvious choice is to simply sell the house. But what if the housing market is down or you’re underwater? Should you keep the house and become an absentee landlord? Read the rest of this artilce on my about.com minisite.

I’m always looking for great organizations, programs, and other resources to help the men and women who serve our country. If you’ve got a suggestion or referral, please drop an email to armin [at] mrdad [dot] com.

#MilitaryFamilyFriday: Acing the Military PFT

Throughout your military tenure—starting possibly even before you get to boot camp–you’ll be required to pass the standard PFT (physical fitness test) and meet basic weight standards. Here’s everything you need to know to totally crush the PFT. Read the rest of this article on my about.com minisite.

I’m always looking for great organizations, programs, and other resources to help the men and women who serve our country. If you’ve got a suggestion or referral, please drop an email to armin [at] mrdad [dot] com.