Is There More to Life Than Just Taxes?

No matter what anyone says, part of being a dad—for most of us—involves providing for our family. I have yet to speak to another father who doesn’t spend at least some time thinking about money—whether he’s the sole provider or shares that responsibility with his partner. So even though we’d much rather just spend quality time with our families, we’re often distracted by trying to figure out how to bring in more money.

I’ve written a lot about the heavy toll that financial stress takes on us. Besides causing all sorts of health problems, going through a personal financial crisis or just worrying about money can lead to drug or alcohol abuse, and can definitely strain our relationships. It can also muddle our thinking, cause depression, and negatively impact our performance at work. That, of course, could lead to losing the job, which would make the already-bad financial situation even worse. So how do we get a handle on the situation and keep financial worries at bay?
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Mindful Parenting + Home for Dinner

Myla and Jon Kabat-Zinn, co-authors of Everyday Blessings.
Topic:
The inner work of mindful parenting.
Issues: What is mindfulness? Using mindfulness approaches to become a better parent; learning to respond to our children with greater wisdom and compassion.

Anne Fishel, author of Home for Dinner.
Topic:
Mixing food, fun, and conversation for a happier family and healthier kids.
Issues: Overcoming time-constraints, scheduling issues, and post-work fatigue; bringing gratitude to the table and averting complaints and conflict; the importance of conversation; getting the whole family talking, laughing, and engaging with one another—and keeping it up over time.

Pregnancy: Is There Sex After Sex?

Dear Mr. Dad: I’m an expectant father and my sex life has completely disappeared. We’re not very far into the pregnancy but my wife seems to have lost all interest (admittedly, her throwing up a few times a day probably has something to do with that). Are we EVER going to have sex again?

A: My money’s on Yes. But you’ll have to be patient. In the first trimester, many couples experience a drop-off in their sex life. Sometimes it’s because of the mom-to-be’s nausea. Other times it’s because she’s worried that you won’t be attracted to her changing body or that having sex will hurt the baby or cause a miscarriage (that’s extremely unlikely). In some cases (though not yours) the guy truly isn’t attracted to his partner anymore or thinks that she isn’t feeling attractive and wouldn’t be interested in sex anyway. And in some cases, the whole idea that you’re about to become parents sinks in, and one or both of you starts thinking about your own parents, in bed, naked…. That can be a real mood killer.
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Family Cooking Adventures Every Week

Jennifer Tyler Lee, author of The 52 New Foods Challenge.
Topic:
A family cooking adventure for each week of the year.
Issues: Creative ways to get your children to eat healthy, balanced meals; practical tips to change the way your family eats—one new food at a time; bringing back the joy of mealtimes; exploring new foods and bust boredom at your family table.

Evil Stepmother Speaks + 52 New Foods Challenge

Barbara Goldberg, author of The Evil Stepmother Speaks.
Topic:
A guide for stepfamilies who want to love and laugh
Issues: Why doesn’t anyone in the stepfamily listen to me? Why doesn’t the biological parents see what I see? Why am I so frustrated? And many other questions stepmothers ask.

Jennifer Tyler Lee, author of The 52 New Foods Challenge.
Topic:
A family cooking adventure for each week of the year.
Issues: Creative ways to get your children to eat healthy, balanced meals; practical tips to change the way your family eats—one new food at a time; bringing back the joy of mealtimes; exploring new foods and bust boredom at your family table.